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March 11, 2010
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How To Break Up With A Friend
Question From Myra: Hey, i had a chat with my mom earlier and asked her how to positively deal with a ditzy or not bright friend. She gave me a huge lecture and made me cry and reminded me of my best friend I lost last year. She said I expect too much from people and should grow up. Do you have any tips? When I mean lost I mean we aren’t friends anymore.
Response: It sounds to me like your question to your Mother may have triggered something in her that had little to do with your specific current issue. Moms have a lot of hopes and dreams for us. It’s important for you to understand that your Mom did not mean to make you cry.
Let’s address your ditzy friend. I believe there is a place in your life for this girl. She does not need to be your best friend and probably shouldn’t be. You can pull away from her without hurting her feelings by always being kind but not always making plans with her when she suggests something.
As young kids many of our friends have parents who are friends with our parents. We are friends with them because they are there. As we grow older, we gravitate towards people with whom we have more common interests. As our ability to make our own plans and find our own transportation increases, we sometimes grow apart from early childhood friends. This process is very natural, however, along the way, feelings may be hurt, so it is very important that above all else, you remain kind… to old friends, to new friends and especially, to your Mom.
